Last Tuesday, Sarah watched her life dissolve into pixels.

She'd planned to quickly check Instagram before her daughter's recital. Just a peek. But the algorithm had other plans. A cooking video led to a relationship drama, which spiraled into political outrage, which somehow ended with her watching strangers argue about pineapple on pizza. When she finally looked up, forty-seven minutes had evaporated. Her daughter stood in the doorway, costume wilted, asking why Mommy missed her song.

Sarah isn't alone. Right now, as you read this, millions of people are losing fragments of their lives to screens that promise connection but deliver isolation. Technology addiction affects people across every demographic¹, but here's what nobody talks about: it's not stealing your time, it's stealing your presence. Your ability to be fully alive in the moments that matter most.

Your phone didn't come with a warning label. Maybe it should have.

What are the signs and symptoms of tech addiction?

Dr. Sherer, Chief Medical Officer and Co-founder at Nostos breaks it down.

No two cases of tech addiction look alike. In fact, no two cases of any addiction look alike. Addiction never happens in isolation, it happens to a real person with goals, dreams, and a complex history. Each person's experience with addiction is unique, just as their path to recovery will be.

Tech addiction can be particularly difficult to spot because excessive tech use has become normalized in our society, even celebrated. Just look around next time you're waiting for public transit. These days, it's unusual to see someone who isn't glued to their phone.

Generally speaking there are six main symptoms to watch out for.

Salience: You spend a lot of time thinking about social media or planning how to use it.

Mood Modification: You use social media to forget about personal problems or reduce feelings of anxiety, guilt, or depression.

Tolerance: You feel an urge to use social media more and more to achieve the same pleasure you once did.

Withdrawal: You become restless or troubled if you're prohibited from using social media.

Conflict: You use social media so much that it has had a negative impact on your job, studies, or relationships.

Relapse: You've tried to cut down on social media use without success.

These symptoms, developed as part of the Bergen Social Media Addiction Scale, help identify problematic social media use patterns. Answering "often" or "very often" to at least four of these criteria may indicate potential social media addiction.

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What Does Tech Addiction Really Look Like?

Let's be honest here: we all spend a lot of time with our devices. But there's a crucial difference between healthy technology use and addiction. It's important to note that the amount of time spent on a technology alone does not necessarily indicate problematic or compulsive use¹. The key lies in how technology use affects your life, relationships, and well-being. When your digital habits start controlling you instead of you controlling them, that's when we need to pay attention.

Mental and Physical Health Effects of Tech Addiction

Your body often knows before your mind does that something's not quite right. Physical symptoms of tech addiction can include eye strain, headaches, and disrupted sleep¹.

Additionally, research has found that technology addiction can cause serious consequences for mental and physical health, including muscle pain, sleep disturbances, and a higher risk for mental health issues². Have you noticed your neck aching from looking down at your phone? Do you find yourself staying up later than intended, promising yourself "just five more minutes" that turns into hours?

Sleep disruption is particularly telling. People with internet addiction are 2.2 times more likely to have sleep problems than people who don't struggle with excessive technology use.² Your sleep matters more than you might realize—it's not just about feeling tired. Poor sleep affects everything from your immune system to your emotional regulation.

Quick Relief Strategies for Physical Symptoms:

• Eye strain: Follow the 20-20-20 rule—every 20 minutes, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds
• Neck pain: Raise your device to eye level instead of looking down
• Sleep issues: Use blue light filters after sunset and charge your phone outside the bedroom
• Headaches: Take regular breaks and ensure proper lighting when using devices

Signs of Technology Addiction: How to Identify When Screen Time Becomes a Compulsive Problem

The behavioral symptoms of tech addiction often develop gradually, which makes them easy to dismiss or rationalize. But they're worth paying attention to because they reveal patterns that might be holding you back from the life you actually want.

Loss of Control

Symptoms of internet use disorders generally include an inability to control use of the technology¹. Maybe you've tried to limit your social media time, only to find yourself mindlessly scrolling again within minutes. Or perhaps you've set boundaries around gaming or online shopping that you consistently break.

Neglecting Responsibilities

Difficulties with personal and professional responsibilities¹ are another hallmark symptom. Have you missed deadlines because you got caught up online? Canceled plans with friends to stay home and binge-watch? Let household tasks pile up while you pursued digital activities?

These choices make sense in the moment, technology often provides immediate gratification that real-world responsibilities don't. But when this pattern becomes consistent, it's worth examining what needs these digital activities are meeting and how you might meet them in healthier ways.

Continuing Despite Negative Consequences

Perhaps the most telling symptom is continuing to use the technology despite negative consequences¹. You might recognize that your technology use is affecting your relationships, work performance, or mental health, yet feel unable to change the pattern.

This can be incredibly frustrating and confusing. "Why can't I just stop?" is a question many people ask themselves. The answer often lies in understanding that technology addiction shares similarities with other behavioral addictions.

Immediate Action Steps:

• Create friction: Remove apps from your home screen or log out after each use
• Set specific times: Designate tech-free hours during meals or before bed
• Use accountability: Tell a friend about your goals and check in regularly
• Replace the habit: When you feel the urge to scroll, do 10 jumping jacks or drink a glass of water instead

What Causes Technology Addiction: The Neurological and Psychological Factors Behind Compulsive Digital Device Use

People with technology addiction can experience symptoms of tolerance and withdrawal similar to people with substance use disorders³. This means you might need to spend increasing amounts of time online to feel the same satisfaction (tolerance), and feel anxious or irritable when you can't access your preferred technology (withdrawal).

Tolerance: The Moving Goalpost

Tolerance in tech addiction might look like needing to check social media more frequently to feel connected, or requiring more intense gaming experiences to feel engaged. What used to satisfy you for an hour now takes three hours.

Withdrawal: When the Well Runs Dry

People with a technological addiction may think obsessively about the behavior and they may experience withdrawal symptoms if access to the technology is cut off¹. Withdrawal from technology might involve feeling anxious when your phone isn't nearby, experiencing phantom vibrations (Over 70% of smartphone users report feeling "phantom vibrations," where they think their phone is vibrating when it isn't⁴), or feeling disconnected and irritable during technology-free periods.

Age-Specific Considerations: Why Young People Are Particularly Vulnerable

If you're concerned about a young person in your life, your instincts are worth trusting. Children and adolescents may be particularly vulnerable to technological addiction because their brains are still developing¹. The statistics are concerning: around 44% of teenagers struggle without a technology break⁵, and 41% of people in their 20s struggle without tech⁵.

For young people, technology often serves crucial developmental needs—social connection, identity exploration, and autonomy. This makes it particularly difficult to address problematic use without understanding and honoring these underlying needs.

Supporting Young People:

• Model healthy behavior: Show balanced technology use in your own life
• Create tech-free zones: Establish areas or times where devices aren't allowed
• Engage in alternative activities: Provide engaging offline options for social connection and creativity
• Open conversations: Talk about technology's impact without judgment or shame

The Connection to Mental Health: It's Complicated

This is perhaps the most crucial point to understand: The relationship between technology addiction and mental health is complex and bidirectional. Individuals with preexisting mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, may be more susceptible to developing internet use disorders as a coping mechanism¹.

This means that sometimes, what looks like technology addiction might actually be self-medication for underlying conditions. The problematic use of technology "may be a coping mechanism, maladaptive behavior, or a self-medication for an underlying psychiatric condition"¹.

Are you using technology to avoid difficult emotions? To feel less lonely? To distract yourself from stress or trauma? There's no shame in this—we all seek relief from pain. The question is whether your current coping strategies are serving your long-term well-being.

Why This Complexity Matters:

• Surface-level solutions may not work: Simply removing technology without addressing underlying issues often leads to relapse or finding other unhealthy coping mechanisms
• Professional help may be necessary: If you suspect depression, anxiety, ADHD, or trauma are contributing factors, a mental health professional can provide comprehensive assessment and treatment
• Holistic approach is key: Effective treatment often combines technology management with therapy, lifestyle changes, and sometimes medication for underlying conditions

Different Types of Tech Addiction

Technology addiction isn't monolithic. Understanding which type resonates most with your experience can help you develop more targeted strategies for change.

Social Media Addiction

Social media addiction involves problematic and compulsive use of social media; an obsessive need to check and update social media platforms, often resulting in problems in functioning and disrupted real-world relationships¹. If this is your struggle, you might notice yourself comparing your life to others' highlight reels, feeling anxious when you can't check updates, or spending hours consuming content that doesn't actually make you feel good.

Specific strategies:

• Unfollow accounts that trigger comparison or negative emotions
• Use apps that track and limit your usage
• Schedule specific times for social media rather than constant checking
• Engage more actively (commenting, messaging) rather than passive scrolling

Gaming Addiction

Internet gaming disorder refers to excessive use of online or video games, leading to neglect of responsibilities and physical health¹. Gaming can provide a sense of achievement, social connection, and escape that's hard to find elsewhere. Research shows that excessive gaming — spending two-thirds or more of free time — is correlated with negative mental health outcomes, including higher incidence of anxiety, depression and substance use⁶.

Specific strategies:

• Set clear time limits and use timers
• Find offline activities that provide similar rewards (achievement, social connection)
• Consider single-player games instead of multiplayer to reduce social pressure
• Create a gaming schedule that doesn't interfere with sleep or responsibilities

Online Shopping Addiction

Online shopping or auction addiction involves an impulse, drive, or temptation to shop online and repeatedly acting on the impulse in a way that is harmful and leads to disruption in various areas of a person's life¹. The ease of one-click purchasing can make this particularly challenging to control.

Specific strategies:

• Remove saved payment methods from websites
• Use the "24-hour rule"—wait a day before purchasing anything non-essential
• Unsubscribe from promotional emails
• Track your spending to see patterns and triggers

Pornography Addiction

Problematic use of online pornography involves compulsive use of online sexual content, impacting personal relationships and mental well-being¹. This form of addiction can be particularly isolating and shame-inducing, making it harder to seek help. The accessibility and anonymity of online pornography can lead to escalating use patterns that interfere with intimate relationships, work productivity, and self-esteem. Like other forms of technology addiction, it often serves as a coping mechanism for underlying emotional needs such as stress relief, loneliness, or anxiety, but ultimately creates more problems than it solves.

Specific strategies:

• Use content filters and accountability software
• Identify triggers and develop alternative coping strategies
• Consider therapy, especially if it's affecting relationships
• Focus on building real-world connections and intimacy

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Building a Healthier Relationship with Technology

Recovery from technology addiction isn't about completely eliminating technology—it's about developing a healthier, more intentional relationship with it. Here are evidence-based strategies that can help:

Immediate Changes You Can Make Today:

1. Create physical barriers: Keep your phone in another room while working or sleeping
2. Use grayscale mode: Remove the visual reward of colorful apps
3. Delete and reinstall apps: Create friction for accessing time-wasting apps
4. Set specific check-in times: Rather than constant monitoring, check messages at designated times

Longer-term Strategies:

1. Develop offline interests: Cultivate hobbies and activities that don't involve screens
2. Build real-world connections: Prioritize face-to-face social interactions
3. Practice mindfulness: Notice urges to use technology without automatically acting on them
4. Create meaningful routines: Develop morning and evening routines that don't center around devices

When to Seek Professional Help:

• Your technology use is significantly impacting work, relationships, or health
• You experience severe anxiety or depression when unable to use technology
• You've tried multiple self-help strategies without success
• You suspect underlying mental health conditions are contributing to the problem

Treatment Options and Support

Change is possible. Even in the toughest moments healing can begin, and lasting transformation can follow. There are several approaches to treating technology addiction:

Professional Treatment Options:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Helps identify and change thought patterns and behaviors
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Focuses on accepting difficult emotions while committing to valued actions
• Group therapy: Provides peer support and accountability
• Residential treatment: For severe cases that require intensive intervention

Self-Help Resources:

• Apps for digital wellness: Moment, RescueTime, Freedom, and others can help track and limit usage
• Books: "Digital Minimalism" by Cal Newport, "How to Stop Time" by Nitsan Dar
• Online communities: Support groups and forums for people working on technology addiction

Specialized Programs:

Organizations like Nostos provide online group programs that help people overcome tech addiction using evidence-based approaches such as Integrative Therapeutic Coaching (ITC). Sessions are led by licensed professionals and help you take action to reclaim your life.

Quit Tech Addiction with Nostos

Change is possible. Even in the toughest moments healing can begin, and lasting transformation can follow.

Nostos provides an online group program that helps people overcome tech addiction. We use an evidence-based approach called Integrative Therapeutic Coaching (ITC). Sessions are led by licensed professionals, and help you take action to reclaim your life.

Learn more about the program, or book a confidential call to get support today.

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